But I determined this with myself, that I would not come again to you in heaviness.

But I have judged this with myself, not to come back to you in grief.

And I decided this to myself, not again to come in sorrow unto you,

But, so far as I am concerned, I have resolved not to have a painful visit the next time I come to see you.

But it was my decision for myself, not to come again to you with sorrow.

But I determined this within myself, not to return again to you in sorrow.

For my own sake, as well, I decided not to pay you another painful visit.

But I determined this with myself - I made up my mind on this point; I formed this resolution in regard to my course.
That I would not come again to you in heaviness - In grief (ἐνη λύπ enē lup). "I would not come, if I could avoid it, in circumstances which must have grieved both me and you. I would not come while there existed among you such irregularities as must have pained my heart, and as must have compelled me to resort to such acts of discipline as would be painful to you. I resolved, therefore, to endeavor to remove these evils before I came, that when I did come, my visit might be mutually agreeable to us both. For that reason I changed my purpose about visiting you, when I heard of those disorders, and resolved to send an epistle. If that should be successful, then the way would be open for an agreeable visit to you." This verse, therefore, contains the statement of the principal reason why he had not come to them as he had at first proposed. It was really from no fickleness, but it was from love to them, and a desire that his visit should be mutually agreeable, compare the notes, 2-Corinthians 1:23.

But I determined this - The apostle continues to give farther reasons why he did not visit them at the proposed time. Because of the scandals that were among them he could not see them comfortably; and therefore he determined not to see them at all till he had reason to believe that those evils were put away.

But I determined this with myself, that I would not come again to you in (a) heaviness.
(a) Causing grief among you, which he would have done if he had come to them before they had repented.

But I determined with myself,.... The apostle having removed the charge of levity and inconstancy brought against him, goes on to excuse his delay in coming to them, and to soften the severity, which some thought too much, he had used in his former epistle: he determined with himself, he took up a resolution within his own breast some time ago, says he,
that I would not come again to you in heaviness; that he would not come with sorrow and heaviness, bewailing their sins not repented of, and by sharp reproofs and censures, which in such a case would be necessary, be the cause of grief and trouble to them; wherefore he determined to wait their repentance and amendment before he came again. The word "again", may be connected with the phrase "in heaviness"; and the sense be, that in his former epistle, which was a sort of coming to them, he made them heavy and sorry, by sharply rebuking them for some disorders that were among them; and since it has been a settled point with him, that he would not come in heaviness again: or with the word "come"; and then the meaning is, as his first coming among them was to the joy of their souls, so it was a determined case with him, that his second coming should not be with grief, either to them or himself, or both; and this is the true reason why he had deferred it so long.

The apostle desired to have a cheerful meeting with them; and he had written in confidence of their doing what was to their benefit and his comfort; and that therefore they would be glad to remove every cause of disquiet from him. We should always give pain unwillingly, even when duty requires that it must be given.

REASON WHY HE HAD NOT VISITED THEM ON HIS WAY TO MACEDONIA; THE INCESTUOUS PERSON OUGHT NOW TO BE FORGIVEN; HIS ANXIETY TO HEAR TIDINGS OF THEIR STATE FROM TITUS, AND HIS JOY WHEN AT LAST THE GOOD NEWS REACHES HIM. (2Co. 2:1-17)
with myself--in contrast to "you" (2-Corinthians 1:23). The same antithesis between Paul and them appears in 2-Corinthians 2:2.
not come again . . . in heaviness--"sorrow"; implying that he had already paid them one visit in sorrow since his coming for the first time to Corinth. At that visit he had warned them "he would not spare if he should come again" (see on 2-Corinthians 13:2; compare 2-Corinthians 12:14; 2-Corinthians 13:1). See Introduction to the first Epistle. The "in heaviness" implies mutual pain; they grieving him, and he them. Compare 2-Corinthians 2:2, "I make you sorry," and 2-Corinthians 2:5, "If any have caused grief (sorrow)." In this verse he accounts for having postponed his visit, following up 2-Corinthians 1:23.

I would not come again to you in heaviness. See 2-Corinthians 1:23. He desired not to come to rebuke, but to rejoice with them. This verse seems to point to a time when he had come in "heaviness." It is generally admitted now by commentators that he did make such a visit, probably while preaching at Ephesus, running across the sea, a voyage of two or three days, for a short visit. This visit seems to be proved by 2-Corinthians 12:14, 2-Corinthians 12:21, and 2-Corinthians 13:1. See Conybeare and Howson, Vol. II, p. 27.
For if I make you sorry, etc. The thought is, your sorrow, because rebuked, gladdens me on account of your repentance.
I wrote this same. What he had written in 1-Corinthians 16:5 concerning the delay of his coming. He delayed, having confidence that they would reform, so that all could rejoice together.
For out of much affliction and anguish of heart I wrote. The First Epistle, which rebuked their divisions and immorality. He wrote sharply, but in great sorrow, not to grieve them, but to demonstrate his love by his assiduous care of them and rebuke of their sins.

In grief - Either on account of the particular offender, or of the church in general.